Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!
My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly. I’m...
View ArticleYou want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!
Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME! Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from...
View ArticleI Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey
A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right...
View ArticleTrading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink...
Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance....
View ArticleTeaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory
Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy. I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to...
View Article7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant
Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing...
View ArticleRules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom
Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex....
View ArticleThe Low-Down on Ben Wa Balls + Eclipse Kegel Exerciser Review
Ben Wa balls, also known as Kegel exercisers, are all the rage. We’ve known for over 1,500 years using them leads to improved vaginal health, better sex and stronger orgasms. You’d think that would...
View ArticleThe Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover
When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight...
View ArticleWhy I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)
This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com. It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play....
View Article10 Sex Toys You’ve Probably Never Heard of But Should Own
As a sex educator, S&M dungeon owner (The Studio) and pleasure advocate involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I’ve had the pleasure of trying all sorts of interesting sex toys many folks don’t ever see....
View Article50 Shades Of Grey Library Book Club a Success!
Last night I hosted a 50 Shades of Grey Book Club at the Elmwood Park Public Library. I’ve hosted other 50 Shades book clubs but this was my first at a public library. What a wonderful turn-out! This...
View ArticleInflating the Anal Hype – Truth or Bust?
Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug...
View ArticlePiss: A Short Film
Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to...
View ArticleSex & Mormonism: Homosexuality, BDSM, Magic Underpants & More
Whenever I hear about someone that is personally conservative or belongs to an orthodox sex negative religion, I want to know if they get freaky behind closed doors. Do Mormons have sex on their...
View ArticleTop 10 CalExotics Fetish Toys of 2013
Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN! Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from...
View Article“Down on your knees! Now, how may I serve you, bitch?” or Inverse Power...
There is no one true way to fulfill a role. Don’t let anyone police what or who you are. Like a $20 dollar bill that is folded in half, then wrinkled up and stuffed in a pocket, you still have the same...
View ArticleReview: The Shibari Wand Helped me Find the Secret to the Universe . . . in...
The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s...
View ArticleKinky Korner Web Series
Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you...
View ArticleShock Your Sex Life: Electrosex for Couples
Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate...
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